They say that moving can be just as traumatic as a death in the family.

The 12 hour drive was the longest one I’ve made as the sole driver of my vehicle. Five people and three mice stayed in one hotel room the night before we got here. And then the unpacking began. At one point, 8 people in total were helping unload the Uhaul. I am grateful for the help, but it can be very overwhelming to enter a new stage in your life suddenly and to have nowhere to flee for a moment of screaming or weeping or thinking. And to be hundreds of miles away from your female best friend. And to be married to someone who’s busy enjoying the moment when all you can do is see the desolation you’ve caused by moving in the first place.

To be fair to my new home city, Charlottesville is wonderful. There are a lot of thriving local businesses and cool things to do. Rich American history surrounds us, as do the Blue Ridge Mountains. The thrift stores are nice, there are a wide variety of retail stores not available in Tallahassee, and they even have a restaurant dedicated to soup (I love soup).

But it’s hard to pick up and move. And I think it needs to be shared, honestly and without forced happiness. I’m sure I’ll have some happy, hopeful posts, but for now, I need to be honest with myself about my reality, get through the grief, heal, and move forward.

2 thoughts on “away

  1. I'm not good at words to make people feel better. I read your post and feel your pain and want to be sad for you. But I know that you'll pull through this and love Charlottesville soon enough, and we'll all be jealous of your amazing stories of mountains and snow and freedom from Florida. 🙂

  2. I understand how difficult moving can be, and one of the most frustrating things I’ve endured lately is people telling me that “it’ll get better” and “don’t worry, I’ll make new friends.” But I think that dealing with the heartache of moving away from those who love you is important and I wish people could see that sometimes I just need a big hug, not a solution. 🙂 So although I cannot give you a big hug (nor are you a fan of hugs anyway), feel free to call at any time. 🙂

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