3 years

marriage anniversaryToday is Daniel’s and my 3 year wedding anniversary. I know our marriage is still young, but 3 years passed quickly. I’m glad our relationship has been (mostly) healthy and that we’ve weathered the storms of graduating, new jobs, grad school, spiritual/quarter life crisis, lost friendships, and moving to another state together. We forgot to plan anything special, but I’m sure we’ll find a way to celebrate in the next few weeks.

Below is the wedding video our photographer surprised us with a few weeks after the wedding. I post it every anniversary because I love it.

 

I’m saddened to have already witnessed so many young marriages disintegrate. I know there are a number of reasons (most quite legitimate) why marriages don’t work out, but I feel really lucky that Daniel and I are still just as compatible as ever. I think a lot of people get mushy gushy on the internet and gloss over the day-to-day nature of marriage. They pretend that everything is perfect and sunshiney and beautiful when it’s really just daily living with someone you chose to commit yourself to. Daniel’s and my marriage is strong, but it isn’t perfect and never will be; that’s part of being human. He’s going to roll his eyes that I wrote this post and I’m going to act sulky and complain that he doesn’t find commemorating our anniversaries as important as I do. That’s part of the ebb and flow of our relationship – it’s part of the daily act – and it’s pretty entertaining.

at home: heirloom marriage certificate

We carried home a nice assortment of family heirlooms after a visit to Daniel’s grandparents’ house last summer, including the 1913 wedding certificate of Daniel’s great grandparents.

Dated January 15, 1913, it’s the oldest personal historical item we own. I love everything about it: lovers on a calm sea at sunset, the little cherub, floralia galore, and pretty type. I don’t think Daniel met Porter or Emma Wise, so it’s lovely and a bit eerie to have this connection to them. It’s also nice – in our own, still new marriage – to feel connected to a couple who married over 100 years ago.

We keep it on display in the bedroom in a simple frame with gallery quality UV glass to deter additional fading over time.

century old marriage certificate heirloom 1913 art antique marriage certificate bedroom we5Family heirlooms have great nostalgic and historical value, even in an age when the new and innovative compete for our attention.

the storm

tornado dream

I was warming up for police training at a church recreational center on Virginia’s coast. There were nearly 100 of us there, all dressed in gray and navy, doing jumping jacks and anticipating the events of the day.

The sky was overcast through the large, south-facing windows, built high into the wall of the gymnasium. Someone shouted. The wind picked up in a cacophonous symphony of howls and rustling sand. My eyes grew wide in terror: an enormous tornado was headed toward the building. We sat down, some huddled together, myself apart from the group, knowing that following a safety procedure at this point was futile.

The tornado passed the building then, barring our view of the coastline for a few minutes. From the windows in the northern wall, I saw a girl in a red cape running, but it was too late. She was swept up as the winds racked and swayed the tall grass between our building and the church sanctuary. It tore through the sanctuary, demolishing the eastern wall.

I knew that it was bound to head inland, toward Daniel. I texted him:

“I hope you survive. It’s headed your way. Know that I love you very much.”

As I hit send, the howling I’d endured for close to a half hour stopped suddenly, giving way to eerie silence. The stillness was interrupted only by the sound of my heart beating furiously, high on adrenaline.

And then I woke up, convinced my dream had been prophetic, convinced the end was nigh. After several minutes of lying there, overheated and frozen in fear, I woke up Daniel, told him I was afraid, and snuggled into his side, thankful for him, thankful we were both together and alive.

*photo found here

november moodboard

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This month, I intend to enjoy:

  • taking Skyline Drive over to Luray Caverns for a day of exploring
  • loved ones coming to visit
  • Green Bean Casserole on Thanksgiving
  • all the books Daniel recommended to me: The Autobiography of Malcolm X, House of the Spirits, and The Madonna of 115th Street
  • wearing boots all the time
  • getting started on Christmas shopping
  • layered outfits
  • my peacoat
  • fun, cold weather accessories (I wish I had that fox scarf)

2 years

Untitled from Lindsey Vinson on Vimeo.

Daniel and I got married just over 2 years ago. I wrote a much lengthier anniversary post over at my old blog, someone’s water lily, but I forgot to share my favorite collection of images! Our wedding photographer, Lindsey Pemberton, made a stop-motion style video using photographs she captured throughout the course of the day. I didn’t know it would come together so beautifully and I never tire of watching it or sharing it.